New Year Resolutions for the Newly Divorced

A new year always brings the hope of new changes and renewing who you are. After divorce, there’s the hope of a better future, but the fear that the future will be dim and gloomy and financially hard.  It’s a good time to make some resolutions, take steps to create a plan and look forward to a better life.  DeKalb county family attorneys can help inspire you for a better year.  Divorce can be stressful, and self-care and looking at relationships and how you will renew them and move forward with grace can make a significant difference in your own well-being.  Divorce can be easier with the help of a Dekalb County divorce lawyer.

Self
One of the strongest elements of reclaiming yourself is to let go of the anger and blame. You can do this by focusing on the wonderful things in your life rather than the corrosive past.  Many emotional health professionals suggest having a small gratitude journal and writing in it daily.  Let go of the grudges and blame for past betrayals, it won’t solve anything, and you’ll drag the emotions and resentment around like a dirty blanket trailing behind you and damping any joy. Resolve to stay positive. Practice gratitude. And saying “what if?” And seeking an optimistic future.

Focus on You
This is a great time to upgrade your look, upgrade your skills, and focus on your needs and some fun activities and interests. Focus on things that bring you joy and give you happiness.  Spend time, face time, real-time, or Zoom time with positive friends and resolve not to rehash the past.

Exercise
There are numerous studies that explain how exercise brings endorphins and can help your mood.  Not only will you look better, but you will also feel better and be able to navigate any challenges.

Finances
Another element is taking control of your finances. Those have changed, and having a look at how you create your new financial goals and your new budget will allow you to move forward, DeKalb family law attorney can assist you in creating balance in your finances and knowing what you need to be aware of in the future.

Relationship with Ex
It would be wonderful if you could resolve issues with your ex and maintain an amicable and kind relationship. However, that’s not always possible. Sometimes the best you can do is to never speak ill of your ex, especially to your children. Not speaking ill of someone, also will help you move forward graciously. The animosity won’t corrode your daily life.

If your children are young or still in school, learn the elements of being a good co-parent. This means being cooperative and sometimes making compromises. Cultivate communication about the children.   If civil conversations deteriorate, know that there may be legal recourse to ensure the other parent is civil toward you and when he or she is talking about you to the children.   A Dekalb County family law attorney can help you with the necessary steps.

Relationship with Children
Whether your kids are small or grown, keep them out of the post-divorce apocalypse.  Don’t use them as a spy, messenger, confidante, or ally to wage a war.    Ask yourself: Am I present, patient, understanding, and loving enough as a parent?   This question will help keep you focused.   Remember they are in transition and grieving as well, and may be trying to find themselves and their role in your new relationship in divorce.

How your attorney can help
Ask for help. This is a new area and can sometimes be difficult to navigate. You may want to consult a Dekalb County divorce attorney at North Georgia Family Lawyers, LLC.

Focus on your future look at the bright elements, not the dark ones